A Tip For Changing Your Kid’s Attitude In One Minute
There are several ways to go about changing your kid’s attitude. I would like to talk about just one way and that way is: take control as the parent.
I know that sounds pretty simple but let me tell you that not all parents do this with their children. We need to learn to give specific directions rather than merely requesting things from our kids. We must show our kids that we are indeed the boss and make the rules. I don’t mean in a horrible way. You can do this in a nice way.
Ever heard of the phrase “fake it till you make it?” Well, when you sound like you are in control of your kids you are getting very close to doing it right. This is critical to do because if you don’t step up to the mark your kids will take over control by default.
When a child doesn’t do what you ask them to do, you need to say to them, “what are you supposed to be doing?” Then the next thing you need to say is “do it”. This makes sure that the child knows exactly what they should be doing. Then there can be no excuses.
It can be disheartening when your child tries to engage in a power struggle with you about what they should or shouldn’t be doing. But here is my recommendation: after you give them a firm request, turn around and walk away from them. This is disengaging and gives them no opportunity to talk back to you or try to negotiate.
If there is no-one there to argue with, chances are there will be no argument. And don’t ever ask your child for an explanation as to why they haven’t done something they should have done. This actually trains our kids to give us excuses for things and we don’t want them to get used to giving excuses. If you don’t ask your child for an excuse it is not likely they they will try to give you one.
That was just one more simple way to turn around your child’s attitude quickly and easily. And remember, the change must always come from the parent first.